(because not only do other kids need people to know this…i actually need people to know this. right now. in my life.)
your child’s therapist is your child’s therapist.
your child’s therapist is not your therapist.
the point of your child being in therapy is that they feel better and that they can do more of what they want.
the point of your child being in therapy is not that you feel better and that your child can do more of what you want.
if you need to talk about painful and difficult emotions that you’re having about your autistic child and their behavior, the person that you should have that conversation with is your therapist, or your friend, or your spouse, or your parent. not your child’s therapist.
helping your child feel safe might mean that your child’s therapist has to tell you things you don’t want to hear.
the only accurate measure of whether or not your child is doing well with a therapist is whether or not your child feels safer, happier, more able to cope with the world, more able to do what they want.
I am probably around seven, sitting in the living room of a family friend in a purple, white and blue pair of sweatpants and matching sweatshirt. There’s a little fluff-dog sitting near me, and I have a dog-toy ball in my hand. I’m looking in the vague direction of the camera, and making my default picture face–sticking my tongue out as far as I can, like a happy dog.